Killer Angels #2

I´ve read several blogs asking why Lee didn´t listen to Longstreet. From what I´ve read so far, Longstreet´s military strategies were based upon what he had learned while serving on the western front. Those strategies learned in the west is what he requested to use several times during the CW. Lee on the other hand, was from the ¨Napoleonic¨ era of military tactics that always said to ¨attack¨. Lee didn´t have the experience that Longstreet had, and Longstreet respected Lee too much to disobey orders to prove his point. That being said, the battle at Little Round Top didn´t play out the way Lee intended it too.
I'm not sure I understand why ALL the soldiers revered and loved Lee so much. I realize that he handled the men extremely well, but some of his battle strategies killed so many. Why were the soldiers so willing to see their friends and family members die without so much as grumbling about poor tactics? All I can think of is that his reputation at West Point preceeded any doubts of his abilities.